Nightfall

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!

Fina dut, sebelum Fina menjadi Fina sing karena kebanyakan nugas

Today is our (me and Fina) monthly anniversary. Well, this month we will celebrate it in unusual way because in our agenda,which we create it from the start of the relationship, there is a mission to eat seafood but not yet fulfilled. However, when we are going today the restaurant is closed due to unknown reason.

I was shocked, angry,and speechless. But regardless of my behavior, Fina calmly and with her gentle smile said “don’t angry, lets eat in another place.” Could not resist seeing her beautiful face, I calmed again and we went to sugar rush instead of searching another seafood restaurant. But still it was a shame.

Maybe this writing is little bit late but, tidak ada kata terlambat untuk memulai kan ? So, let’s begin ! *doh, I should study for my final exam so this will be short text.

2012 memberikan banyak kenangan buat saya dari awal detik tahun dimulai, walaupun setelahnya saya harus menjalani UAS seperti saat ini. Banyak kenangan manis, pahit, asam, dan asin.

Manisnya

Rundown acara quality times with besties dilaksanakan semuanya. Dari jalan-jalan ke Pangandaran, kawah putih, etc (but I think there are just 2 big events, but whatever). Meninggalkan kenangan indah pada tahun ini jadi ingin mengulang kembali ke waktu itu.

Pahitnya

Tahun ini merupakan tahun yang memberikan duka mendalam bagi sahabat saya dan akhirnya memberikan dampaknya pula bagi kami, but we can overcome it ! TOGETHER yeaaaaahh !! *ala Idris Maliki (for info contact @YamiMaliq)

Asemnya

Saya meninggalkan(secara tidak sengaja) matakuliah wajib semester 4 dan imbasnya mendelaykan jadwal skripsi saya. Well it’s true, itu salah saya, tapi saya terjebak karena tidak diberikan informasi yang baik ketika saya bertanya (panjang jika diceritakan) jadilah saya terjebak. Maybe there is something in the and of this path, just believe it. Nothing to lose ceritanya

Asinnya

Liburan semester saya banyak nganggurnya, imbasnya saya sedikit jadi terbawa suasanya sedikit malas. Berbeda dengan semester 2 kemarin, liburan diisi kegiatan-kegiatan dari PDKT sampai akademik.

And that’s all with everything which i want to share. Kalo mau share pengalaman anda selama 2012 feel free to reply in this post or send me a private message hehe.

But, first I must thank you to The God, my parents, family, best friends, and lastly ……

My beautiful, smart, brilliant, lovely yet sometimes out of the box woman in my life, in my universe, Fina Dwi Putri.

Kejadian ini terjadi kemarin, tepatnya Sabtu sore ditengah hujan deras. Waktu itu saya dan Fina berencana untuk jalan-jalan tapi niat itu berubah, tersalurkan menjadi nonton di bioskop (beda ya konteks jalan-jalan sama nonton). Seperti hari-hari biasanya, mendung, berawan, sedikit gelap, dan dingin tentunya tapi tidak hujan. Saya menjemput dia di kediamannya di markas besar C9 (bukan tempat alien ya !) saya memperkirakan hujan sudah reda karena benar-benar tidak ada rintik air sama sekali.

Sesampainya di depan markas itu, seperti biasa sebelum nge-bell rumahnya saya kontak dulu dia dulu, “depaaaaaann”. Begitulah isi pesan saya untuknya singkat padat dan jelas tapi maknanya sedikit, dan dia pun menjawab, “beeeeelllll”. Akhirnya saya pun ngebell rumahnya dan pintunya dibuka oleh seorang wanita cantik (much more beautiful than Zooey Deschannel). Duduklah saya dan dia di kursi panas no.2 karena yang no.1 sedang diduduki kucing yang sedang agresi pengen nikah (kata Fina). Kenapa disebut kursi panas ?? nanti saya ceritakan, ada kisah tersendiri.

Setelah itu pergilah kita dari kediamannya, tapi rintik hujan pun turun, feeling pun tidak enak, tapi dengan bermodalkan hasrat,niat yang tulus, dan isi dompet seadanya, pergilah kita untuk nonton. NAH ini nih ….

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Ditengah perjalanan, belum 700 meter udah hujan deres. Gimana tidak kesal mengalaminya, baju basah padahal belum jauh perginya dan perjalanan masih jauh. Muncul beberapa option, diantaranya adalah:

1. Pulang, disini maksudnya adalah kita putar balik ke rumah masing-masing dan makan puding enak di rumah.
2. Terobos, seperti kata SBY lanjutkan !
3. Berteduh, menunggu hujan untuk reda tapi option ini dibatalkan karena Fina beropini “udah tanggung basah.”

Setan Emosi pun merasuki sukma dan raga ku, yang ada hanyalah emosi dan amarah kepada langit yang tidak masuk akal dan tidak adil. Ini gambaran wajah saya ketika itu

Dan akhirnya tibalah kami di kolong jembatan pasopati, disini akhirnya kita setuju untuk berteduh sampat hujan dan emosinya reda. Saya terus terang kepada Fina kalau saya sendirian sekarang ini, saya sudah membanting sesuatu sampai rusak. And she didn’t say anything, She keeps smiling at me, but not really smile though. Tiba-tiba dia ngomong “ih kita lucu ya.”

Nah loh

Nah, bingung kan ??? ko mendadak ngomong begitu ???? Lalu saya bertanya kepadanya kenapa dia ngomong begitu. Dan ternyata dia tadi melihat bayangan kita di pintu mobil yang menurut dia lucu, saya tidak bisa ngomong apa-apa soalnya ga keliatan. Tapi sejak saat itu, amarah saya hilang begitu saja. Aneh, dia pake sihir apa ?? Ko amarah saya hilang begitu saja seperti diterpa ombak. Lalu dia mulai ngomong lagi “Coba kamu liat deh bayangan kita di mobil”. Tepat didepan kita ada mobil, tapi tidak bisa bercermin karena kotor, sampai akhirnya kita menunggu ada mobil yang kinclong agar kita bisa bercermin dan membuktikan kita itu lucu (?) walaupun sampai akhirnya saya tidak menemukan alasannya tapi saya mempelajari sesuatu.

Dia memang yang paling bisa membuat saya tersenyum ditengah suasana kacau balau apapun itu.

keracunan batman ya teh ????????